Tired
Anyway so we went out to the Big Chill with Rob and Nicole and an African guy from church called Ike. Wes left to go back home to work and the rest of us went to go and see a movie. Now yesterday was a public holiday and there were four of us travelling, so we had a hard time getting a rickshaw. They all wanted extra ruppies for taking four people. Anyway we squezed in one and went to Saket where the cinema is, however when we got there we found out that the film was sold out. We went to a coffee shop for a little while. Which reminds me on Sunday we went to United Coffee House and had this special coffee that is served like it was made in a science lab. It was in a bulb shaped lab glasswear held by a clamp. So I think it was heated by a bunsen burner, whatever they did it was good coffee.
Anyway so after that they came back to my house and hung out for a while. They watched Lantana and then Rob and Ike left. After that Wesley’s laptop died* so we (Nicole Wes and myself) decided to go to the movies. We went and saw Devil Wears Prada which was good fun. After that we all went to bed, Nicole had to leave at 4.30am for the airport. So anyway Nicole and I got up at 4.25am and went down to where the taxi was meant to be waiting but it wasn’t there yet, we walked around for a while and it came a few minutes later. We’d booked a guy I knew to drive so as to make Nicole feel safer, I saw it was actually that guy and we said goodbye. I presume she got her flight ok this time as I have heard nothing from her. I considered going to the airport with her but felt that was just being over-protective and causing me to lose more sleep.
Which brings me to a question I have for the women out there. When do guys trying to make you safer become guys being over-protective, patronising or disempowering? How much safer does having a male escort make you feel?
* I found out today the power wasn’t plugged in properly on his laptop.
October 4th, 2006 at 2:26 am
how much safer does having a male escort make me feel?
it totally depends on who the male is.
when my boss walks me to my car after work–i feel like the safest person on the planet. not necessarily because he is beefy, or because i nkow he usually has a gun, but because he’s that macho guy. he’s not afraid of things. he would take a person down if they tried to hurt me.
my boyfriend on the other hand is not macho. which, obviously i prefer, as he is my boyfriend. but this is not so good when it comes to feeling safe. while i know he loves me, i’m not entirely convinced he wouldn’t run screaming if someone tried to grab me or something.
and drawing the line between trying to keep someone safe and becoming a force of disempowerment?
i don’t think there’s any answer to that.
as a woman, sometimes i like to be fiercly independent. other days i like to be taken care of.
this is a huge struggle for all of us–men and women–who live after the beginning of the feminist movement.
not that women’s lib is a bad thing by any stretch of the imagination–it’s just that there are no longer any rigid gender roles to sort of safely plug one’s self into.
everyday brings a different person, a different situation, and a different decision to make on how to properly and respectfully interact with people.
sorry i just typed so much.
October 5th, 2006 at 11:07 pm
Thanks Tiffany that was interesting.